Stop Chasing After Instagrammable Weddings

Few weeks ago I sat down with a couple who asked me to officiate their upcoming wedding. After talking about the ups and down of their love story, our discussion quickly turned to the rigors of wedding preparations. Since my fiancée and I are also getting married very soon, we felt like we are on the same boat facing the same sets of difficulties. We talked about the usual suspects: the challenge of coming up with a guest list, the drama of choosing the motif, the obvious gap between the dream wedding and the budget constraints, and the little things in between like fonts and chairs and table runners. Two hours into our conversation we just sat there stunned at the fact that weddings are far too complicated than we anticipated. We had to ask the obvious: what are the bare essentials of a wedding ceremony?

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Pastors and the After-Sermon Comments

Wise words from Thabiti Anyabwile:

Perhaps the most perilous moments in a preacher’s life are those 20 minutes spent after the service greeting the people as they leave. Smiles are exchanged, hands are shaken, prayer requests are given, jokes are told, and feedback is delivered. How the preacher handles the feedback determines a great deal. Critical feedback can crush. Positive feedback can puff up. Everything from despondency to pride grows right there at the church door. Our people mean well. Their encouragements are meant to help. Even discouraging comments, when viewed properly, are often meant to strengthen. We must learn from it all and keep serving in love.

But the one thing we must not do is trust after-sermon comments as a final measure of how faithful or effective our preaching is. We don’t (or shouldn’t!) preach for an “Amen.” We don’t (or shouldn’t!) preach in the fear of man. We don’t (or shouldn’t!) begin to think those few comments (and they are few) represent the entirety of the church or the entirety of God’s work. The Master works his plan well beyond the sight of men. So we shouldn’t finally trust the comments of our people, or even our own assessments.

Shooting Ourselves in the Foot

We often love to shoot ourselves in the foot. Unintentionally, of course.

We often say that Bible knowledge can lead to pride so we kind of tell one another that too much study of God’s Word is counterproductive to our spiritual health. It makes a person proud, they say. It’s useless knowledge, others argue.

Then we stumble over verses like Colossians 1:9–10 and we eat our words in embarrassment. Paul told the believers in Colossae that the way to stay solid in your Christian faith is to actually become filled with knowledge in all spiritual wisdom and understanding. That’s a lot of heavy words. Putting together knowledge, wisdom, and understanding in one sentence is mind-boggling enough for our taste. But Paul is not yet done; he was just getting started. He said that knowledge should fill us, the same way that you fill a tank with water. Why?

Because having that kind of knowledge is the only way to ever walk in a manner worthy of the Lord, to live a life that is pleasing to him, to bear fruit (in evangelism and in character), to be strengthened, and to develop a thankful heart. In other words, being filled with the knowledge of God is the way to thrive and flourish as a believer. Everything we ever want to become as Christians is tied to how much we know God, and that knowledge springs from our Bible readings.

Sounds too academic and too cerebral, I know, but this is God’s ordained way for us to grow. Knowing God is knowing God’s Word, the Bible. There is no escaping it. Much of our spiritual growth boils down to a lot of Bible reading and prayer. Even obedience is simply a fruit of knowing God. Either we admit that, or we continue shooting ourselves in the foot.

Theology and Missions

Christopher J.H. Wright on the The Mission of God’s People:

“Theology, it seems is all about God. It rummages around in what (mostly dead) people have thought and written about God, God’s character and actions, God’s relationship to the world, to human society, God’s involvement in the past, present and future, and the like. Mission, in happy contrast, is all about us the living, and what we believe we are supposed to be doing in the world.

“So, in mutual suspicion, theologians may not relish their theories being muddled by facts on the ground and the challenging questions thrown up by the messiness of practical mission. Practitioners of mission, in quick riposte, may not wish to see their urgent commitment to getting on with the job Christ entrusted to us delayed by indulgent navel-gazing about obscure long words ending in -ology.

“And so the dangerous result is that theology proceeds without missional input or output, while mission proceeds without theological guidance or evaluation.

“There should be no theology that that does not relate to the mission of the church – either by being generated out of the church’s mission or by inspiring and shaping it. And there should be no mission of the church carried on without deep theological roots in the soil of the Bible.

No theology without missional impact; no mission without theological foundations.”

What Are We Becoming?

Eugene Peterson. Run With Horses: The Quest for Life At Its Best. Downers Grove, IL: InterVarsity Press. 2009

One of the supreme tasks of the faith community is to announce to us early and clearly the kind of life into which we can grow, to help us set our sights on what it means to be a human being. Not one of us, at this moment, is complete. In another hour, another day, we will have changed. We are in the process of becoming either less or more. There are a million chemical and electrical interchanges going on in each of us this very moment. There are intricate moral decisions and spiritual transactions taking place. What are we becoming? Less or more?